Often we know when something isn’t working for us, and yet it can be hard to know how to feel better or make different choices.

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All of us have different parts or aspects of ourselves, and none of us are spared from having those parts sometimes take over and act on our behalf. If you’ve ever been confused by what you feel not matching how you act, or if your reactions seem to happen suddenly, that’s normal.

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We can’t actually understand or change how we think, feel, or act if we only scratch the surface. Scratching the surface often looks like blaming ourselves or trying to suppress and get rid of certain aspects of ourselves. We also can’t make lasting change if we only talk about our personal narratives and origin stories from a rational place.

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We are built to adapt, and our strange or confusing patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving are adaptive, even when they cause us real suffering. These adaptations are automatic, meaning they happen quickly and without much conscious thought. They are emotional, meaning they don’t always make logical sense. And they are implicit, meaning they operate outside conscious awareness and can be difficult to recognize at first.

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This is why I practise Coherence Therapy. It uses a non-pathologizing process to help us explore, understand, and shift these long-standing patterns so that we can become more present and active participants in our own lives.

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Let’s begin.